The biggest Lemmy instance already sucks. Try lemmy.dbzer0.com instead.

My experience with Lemmy is that it is much worse than reddit in terms of the number of people with cosmically inflated god-complex egos posting baseless accusations and wild misinformation as dogma with impunity. Then the mods punish anyone who calls them out on it... they seem to operate on extremely arbitrary and misguided rules: https://a.imagem.app/G3R9xb.png

Many servers defederate from each other regularly, making it very much a "which wind would you like to piss into" situation where you have no idea who (if anyone) is even seeing your messages.