No you are describing a scenario where one is shirking blame. One person commits a violent crime against another and you aren't holding them entirely accountable for their actions, your looking to who they may have listened to and what they may have heard such that some blame belongs there.

Notably you didn't engage with my analogy at all. Would you tell a victim of sexual assault that they were partly to blame based on their clothing choices or decision to be in a particular part of town a particular time of day? If not, how would you legally distinguish the two scenarios?