Does doing a lot of walking make it acceptable to leave your young kid and go globetrotting for 30 years?
[–] dang 10 hours ago
[–] TFNA 11 hours ago
Within the overland-travel community, Bushby comes up often enough and people actually talk about his walk, getting visas, crossing borders, interacting with local people. It's a good demonstration of how toxic general social media like Reddit (or, now, HN) is for substantial discussion that people try to move the discussion instead to the personal merits of the person.
[–] contingencies 10 hours ago
But yeah, they are all half-mad or worse (read: "interesting people"); military service isn't going to have zero impact either, people deal with it different ways.
I find it telling he doesn't have flags on his kit.
[–] wand3r 10 hours ago
[–] contingencies 10 hours ago
[–] IncreasePosts 11 hours ago
But, he left the army to do his around the world walk, which means that he could have left the army and gone to Belfast instead.
He and his adult son have a good relationship now seemingly, but that doesn't mean his son didn't need a dad growing up. Having said that, it seems like this dude had a whole slew of mental issues, so perhaps it was for the best that he wasn't around his son much while he was growing up.
[–] smt88 11 hours ago
There’s no way to spin it so that Bushby isn’t an absentee father and a selfish person.
[–] TFNA 11 hours ago
[–] anonreplier 10 hours ago
[–] adaml_623 10 hours ago
[–] BeetleB 10 hours ago
[–] saghm 10 hours ago
[–] BeetleB 10 hours ago
I never understood why people are so willing to advertise their lack of imagination.
[–] Apocryphon 10 hours ago
[–] BrandoElFollito 10 hours ago
The fact that he gtew up to be a man much, much more mature than his father just shows he is the better person. And absolutely nothing on the father.
[–] oAlbe 10 hours ago
Now read your comment again, slowly.
[–] ericmcer 9 hours ago
It is a ton of sacrifice and they won't recognize it until they have kids themselves. The reality is they can resent you as a teen and become endeared with a step or absent parent if they are more "fun" in the moment.
[–] sosodev 10 hours ago
[–] dillondoyle 9 hours ago
This is a very common archetype though: dad of young kids does risky outside adventure for self-aggrandizement > dies.
the upcoming doc Everest: The Other Side will be fascinating.
Hilaree Nelson & Jim Morrison had a pretty crazy expedition goal. Then she dies while training to do it together.
He continues on anyways.
A bit of nuance: IIRC he previously lost his ex and kids in a horrible non-mountaineering car crash.
But IIRC Hilaree had children she left behind.
The film looks beautiful though.
Which is part of the problem... The inspired by jimmy's cinematography -> alex's feats -> become a wannabe amateur free solo father who dies is well established by now lol
My dad is friends with one of the main rabbis in JH. has done probably 20+ "He died doing what he loved" speeches, as the wife and kids sob and are left with no income stream.
[–] andai 9 hours ago
[–] ndiddy 10 hours ago
"Hey dad, what's this trip I hear you talking about?"
"Well son, even though you're 8 years old, I've decided to spend the next 28 years walking around the world."
"Gee dad, that sure seems like a long walk. Are you sure about this?"
"Well of course I'll be taking breaks rather than doing the whole thing at once."
"Great, so you'll be able to visit me, your 8 year old son, right?"
"Nope! I've decided to add my own self-imposed rule that I can't visit the UK until I've completed my walk. Instead, whenever I don't feel like walking, I'm going to fly to Mexico and hang out there. Then when I do feel like walking again, I'll fly back to where I was and resume my walk."
"So you're leaving me, your 8 year old son, to go on a 28 year long, non-contiguous walk around the world where you'll rarely see me? And by the time I grow up we'll barely know each other? And you'll end up missing the birth of your granddaughter?"
"That's right, son! I hope you're excited for the first of 4 times we'll see each other, 6 years from now! Aren't you proud of your dad for being such a great explorer?"
"..."
We mostly don't know why other people do what they do, nor what they've gone through themselves, and we tend to be harshest and most uncharitable when we know the least.
Does that mean that the family impact of taking such a path in life should be off-topic in a thread like this? Not at all. But to be within HN's guidelines and (more importantly) its intended spirit, you should do it differently—not in a condemnatory way, but in a wondering way, and perhaps drawing connections to one's own experience, which always helps.
The goal is to have a curious conversation, rather than a reductive one. That's always the goal here! https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&sor....
(* assuming one can ever do that, or that it's one's place to try)